JOURNEY in HARMONY

This is my second blog about good energy for your master bedroom. The first dealt with the importance of making your bed. Have you adopted the ‘make your bed’ habit? I heard from several readers who are quite surprised that they are enjoying the change in their bedroom atmosphere as well as how much better they feel starting their day. You can check it out here: http://journeyinharmonywithfengshui.com/lets-make-your-bed-1070.html

Two more important aspects of your master bedroom are the placement of the bed and your nightstands. In order to sleep comfortably and feel secure it is best to place your bed so that you can easily see the door of your bedroom when you are lying down. Feng Shui is always concerned with your well being and safety and this position allows you to easily and immediately see anyone entering your room. Naturally you will feel more secure if you can easily see the bedroom entrance when in a relaxed, resting state.

The second aspect of good bedroom chi is the nightstand placement. This can sound odd to you because you may feel this furniture is insignificant. Remember Feng Shui teaches us we are connected to everything in our surroundings. That means we are sending a message to to ourselves and others by how we arrange our surroundings. Many people buy matching nightstands and that’s all there is to know about that subject! Or often the salesperson suggested it’s a good idea, so OK, fine. Well, in Feng Shui the night tables beside the bed tell us about our partner relationship. If you want equality in your relationship, such as an equal say in decisions made, have two nightstands that are identical or equal in importance. If you want to have more say in what’s going on, get yourself a larger more significant nightstand. And watch what happens.

This furniture arrangement influences singles looking for a partner/marriage relationship too. Quite often when we are single we may only have one nightstand. Whether it’s a space issue or we think we’ll get to that when we find someone we often ignore how our bedroom looks until that “Mr/Ms Right” shows up. Then it’s OMG what do I do first!. Just think of it…where are you going to put your new partner if he/she arrives today?

So with this new partner re-design you are physically and symbolically accomplishing three things:

1. Arranging your bedroom for the style of relationship you are seeking, equal, balanced, part time etc.

2. You are physically making room for someone in your life.

3. You are subconsciously and consciously sending out the message “I’m ready, willing and able to start a new wonderful relationship.

Remember, if you seek balance and equality with your partner get two matching or equal night stands, if you want to be the stronger partner, making the decisions, and shouldering most of the responsibilities…be sure your nightstand is larger and more significant. Or you can reverse this arrangement…you see what I mean. One client was unsure of  a guy she was dating and when we discovered she didn’t want to get married again, we saw it was evident in her bedroom as she had only purchased one nightstand with her new bedroom furniture. Instinctively she knew what she was doing, she just wasn’t conscious of her choice.

Whatever your choice…be happy with it.

My next blog will complete the master bedroom series giving you whys and wherefores of other furniture in your bedroom…desk, TV, sewing machine as well as artwork and color choices.

Gals, (and guys of course) Feng Shui helps us care for ourselves and make our life easier and better. Feng Shui is focused on energy and tells us that our home is the most important place in our life. Caring for ourselves and our home takes on many forms, some not always obvious, with many often overlooked benefits. Most women care for others and often run out of time to care for themselves. Well gals, this blog is for you…the first in my new series sharing easy ways to help you make your home and life better…one small, easy step at a time.

Inviting, restful?

Does this make you feel relaxed?

Start with your bedroom, the most important place in your home in Feng Shui. First, answer these questions about your bedroom and … say them out loud…just for fun.
Do you like your bedroom?
Do you like your bed?
Do you sleep well?
Have you actually decorated your bedroom so you love it?
Is your bedroom your second office?
Is it your second/third TV room?

OK, now you know what you really think of your bedroom and how you use it. So, first things first…your bedroom is meant for two things…sleeping and intimacy! If your bedroom serves any other function…..you’re robbing yourself of true relaxation, warm intimate relations and rejuvenating your body. These are three things you need to fulfill your desires for a long life filled with happiness, good health and doing everything else on your bucket list.

How your bedroom looks, feels, and how you use and care for it is vitally important. Your bedroom reflects how you treat yourself, your partner and your intimate relations. I know you’re thinking I’m pushing it a bit, but stay with me. Are you saying: “but I don’t have a partner”…well, this will help clear your head and start to attract the right one. I’ll start with one easy change in your bedroom. And I’ll bet only 15% of my readers already do this.

This easy change is: make your bed every day!

Sound silly? Sound dumb? How can that help me? How does my life improve if I make my bed you ask? Well listen up! Your bed reflects the condition of your head. If it’s jumbled and unmade, so’s your head and subsequently your life. You are helping yourself in 3 ways when you make your bed: you show attention, care and respect for yourself. And what’s not good about that?

1. Attention: You pay attention to the most important piece of furniture in the most important room in your home – your bedroom where you spend 6-8 hours renewing your body & spirit daily. The bed that helps you relax your muscles and supports you as you sleep.

2. Respect: You respect yourself by spending a few quiet moments arranging your bed and at the same time organizing your thoughts to start your day in a positive, clear frame of mind.

3. Care: You show gratitude towards what you appreciate… and you prepare your room for the upcoming night’s restful sleep and in turn care for yourself. Would you rather walk into a bedroom with a neat bed or one that looks like it’s been slept in while you were at work? The messy bed feels cluttered and that’s too much energy for a relaxing night’s sleep. Besides it puts you in a down mood….”what this mess again?”

So please, start here… make your bed every day for just one week. You can stick with anything for a week. See how you feel. I predict you’ll benefit, feeling more relaxed, more in control, less stressed, think more clearly, and you will have a wonderful week. After all, if you are rested, relaxed and confident you will glow.

I’d love to know how you do….drop me a note. Stop back next week too as I explore another aspect of the master bedroom to help bring sweet dreams and delicious relationships.

February a Month of Love

Life is about our relationships with family, friends, children, co-workers, bosses, employees, doctors, teachers, mentors, lovers, neighbors…the list goes on.

Everyone longs for a special someone to share life’s most intimate and memorable moments. When we think about the ’special’ someone, we are either looking for them or trying to keep the spark alive with the person we share our love.

Here are our two situations:

• How to find the right “someone” for a long, loving and rewarding relationship?
• How to enhance our current love relationship and keep it strong and growing?

In each relationship there are similar truths to understand:

• Communicating openly and honestly develops strong relationships in all areas of life…especially love.
• We are most successful connecting with the right person when we know what is important to us.
• We are happiest and most successful when we know and love ourselves.

It’s important to remember that our thoughts and beliefs create our life’s reality. So check in with your thoughts several times daily and be sure you are maintaining a positive focus on life and your love goal. And it’s so very important to remember that showing the love we have in our heart for ourselves and others is very contagious and will attract other positive people to you.

Try these Feng Shui ‘cures’ and adjustments to help you.

New partner attraction tips:

• Make room for someone else in your home. Is there an extra chair at the table, room in the closet?
• Have a nightstand on each side of the bed…preferably equal in size for balance in relationship.
• Make your bedroom a romantic hideaway. No TV, no computer. Add romantic artwork, soft lights and fresh flowers or plants that symbolize new life & growth.
• Think in two’s – have two candles, two champagne glasses, pair of lovebirds.
• Plan fun events you will be attending with your new partner…make a list and go to some with a friend. Enthusiasm is catching…who knows who you will meet.
• Keep your front door area clean and inviting…you’re inviting in new people, opportunities, and relationships.
• Hang a crystal in the center of your bedroom to balance the energy flow.
• Write out your intentions for a loving relationship…such as ” I am so happy I am attracting a loving, fascinating, supportive person into my life”.

Enhancing current love relationships:

• Make your bedroom a romantic hideaway. Remove the TV, exercise machine and computer. Your bedroom is for sleep and romance.
• Remove all photos of family from the bedroom and add happy photos of you and your partner.
• Add inspiring, romantic artwork, soft lights and fresh flowers or plants that symbolize new life & growth.
• Have a nightstand on each side of the bed…preferably equal in size for balance in relationship.
• Clear all clutter from the bedroom.
• Think in two’s when decorating around your house – two candles, two champagne glasses, pair of lovebirds.
• Plan fun events with your partner…make a list and a date night with your mate.
• Hang a crystal in the center of your bedroom to balance the energy flow.
• Write positive intentions for your loving relationship…such as “I am so happy in a loving relationship with a fascinating, supportive person in my life”.

Have fun making these changes and remember to stay positively loving.